Okay, I just don't understand some people.
I admit I'm weird to begin with, and that my idea of 'thinking' of someone is... wait for it.... actually taking the time to think about that person and what they like, how something would make them feel! What a novel concept!
If I spend time with someone, it's because I find the person genuinely interesting/funny/lovable/exciting, etc... you get the idea. I take time to find out their likes and dislikes, what makes them happy and so forth. This allows me to anticipate their needs and wants. For example, I'm not going to get someone who adores the color red something blue or green. It's stupid, `cause I know while they may smile that sickly smile and mumble 'thanks', I KNOW inside they're like, "WTF? I hate green! If she really knew me, she wouldn't have gotten this for me! That or she just doesn't care."
I do care, hence when I give gifts the person receiving the said presents REALLY likes what I get them, because I take the time to get to know them and find out what they want/like/need.
This does have a point, I promise.
So, and again, maybe I'm strange this way, in relationships, don't you think it's in your best interest to actually take the time and think about the other person? For instance, say you want something from your partner. You leave hints in conversations, maybe even talk about it to others in front of them, everything to include bringing up the subject outright to your partner. "I'd like this."
There's this grimace that forms on their face. "I'm too tired, or too busy to do this."
An even deeper scowl forms on my face. "If you didn't do this you wouldn't be so busy or tired."
A huge huff. "Fine, let me pencil you in and we'll spend time together."
My jaw drops. "Forget it."
"No! You wanted this, I'm trying to make it happen!"
I feel like dying inside. Because honestly, if it's THAT much of a chore to take the time to spend with me, why bother? And I despise when people/partners try to engage with you right after you ask for it. It's like they NEVER thought of it until you said something. I always think about the other person - AND IT'S NOT A FUCKING CHORE - so why is spending time with me becoming one?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm even worth it. I'm tired too... of being left behind.